Friday, May 20, 2011
Being busy doesn’t necessarily mean being productive.
Or, at least that is what I have been learning in this past year. Here is hoping the lesson sticks. But, this may be moving too fast. Let me introduce myself.
I graduated with my masters of arts in the art of double speak and bull sh**. That is what we call, political science. The intention was to go on and do something amazing in the world, like be the first woman president or start an organization that ends human trafficking. However, I learned that politics is just a way to waste time when decisions actually need to be made. So, currently, I work for an orthopedic surgeon…something I don’t enjoy but at least it pays the bills.
I also was engaged for four years…yes, I said four. And now have been single for almost three. In these past three years I have learned to hate men and what they do and stand for, but then came full circle to realize how amazing they can be as friends, brothers, and just all around good guys. So, for those of you hoping this will be a blog from a radical feminist, sorry to disappoint.
So, being busy does not mean being productive.
I have learned that single people like to keep themselves busy so as not to appear desperate and lonely to the outside world. Well, I can say in my experience, that idea about life only hurts you and develops feelings of insecurity more. When those lights go out at night and all you have to show for it is the eight hours you spent at a dead end job you do not like and the excuses of work that came home with you, you are still alone. What is worse, you are purposeless.
Life is about relationship, not tasks. It is about the give and take, the laughs, the cries, sometimes the hurting, and often the healing. If you pour yourself into the things this world values (career) you limit your potential at finding and developing great friends and family relations. Life is not about the job, but who you go home to when it is over. Life is about sharing who you are, letting some walls down, and being willing to take risks.
So, if you truly want to be productive, how about taking the next five minuets and call that friend or sibling who you miss and have not talked to in awhile. Or maybe, invite someone out for a soft serve ice cream and walk on the beach. Don’t wait for others to ask, take a chance. Develop relationships – not obligations.
And that is life according to this happy single.