Friday, August 12, 2011
The Richness of Life or Lessons in Sailing
The last year of grad school I learned how to sail a
Capri. For those land lubbers out there, a Capri is a small boat that can seat up to three (very uncomfortably) with two sails. My instructor always laughed at me because I was so ridged on the boat, I hated when there were strong winds, and I seldom liked the obstacle courses we had to pursue. She thought it was particularly interesting that my classes were afternoon (in Southern California that is when the wind is usually at its peak).
I had enrolled in the class in hopes of learning a new hobby, and believed it would be more along the lines of the larger sail boats I had been on and worked in the past. I found out I was wrong. But, certified sailor that I am now, I learned a lot about life on that small boat. I learned the basic understanding of how you need to trust your shipmates (both in putting a boat together and once you are on the high seas), the simple courtesy of others in the water, rules of the water ways, etc. But I also learned something about life. Life is not the harbor, life is the boat, and in that boat you learn about yourself and others. You live. You are. You become.
The first time I had to jibe on a boat it was horrendously blustery outside. I am an excellent skipper, but captaining had always been a difficult task for me. I had not been very good at other maneuvers as a captain and by this time in the class (a few months in) had lost faith in my ability. By this point I had actually crashed a Capri into another
Capri and, well, let’s just say I had not gotten back on the bike yet mentally speaking.
I bring this up because this week reminded me of those fateful spring days on the boat. Work, as usual, was filled with surprising twists and turns that made me feel…well, under appreciated and stuck. I received the small envelope in regards to a job that I am not only well qualified for, but also really wanted. I had a friend of mine continue to give the cold shoulder while an old friend tried to reconnect with me (which I am SO excited about). And my car decided to have a problem with its engine, what is probably oil in the coolant (let’s hope it won’t cost and arm and a leg). All this happened while I am helping one of my greatest friends prepare for her marriage next week (wedding coordinator to best friend…priceless!)
This week was more than a roller coaster ride for me. I felt like I had capsized my boat in the middle of the freezing Pacific (which was my final test to be certified), but then my asthma started and I was unable to breath. My brother asked how I was doing and I told him and his response was, “Things could always be worse.” What a cliché I thought, until he said, “Did you hear about
? The Somalia Sahara?” Leave it to big brother to put things in perspective.
All this, plus one simple statement from an old friend told me something I don’t think I have come to grips with yet, but believe to be true. I have lost faith in me. She reminded me, unbeknownst to her, of something Helen Keller once said:
“The richness of human experience would lose something of rewarding joy if there were no limitations to overcome.”
What this translated to for me, all these seemingly unconnected antidotes, is that sometimes we can be our own limitations. When I look back at the past ten years I know for certain two things. First, I know that they have been difficult for many reasons; and second, that I have overcome a lot of which I am proud. But, I also know that much like capsizing a boat, all you see is the mass before you sometimes.
Lately, I have found myself in the water, asthma started, looking at a large mass of wood praying the only hope for safety does not turtle on me (when the boat goes completely upside down and the mast gets caught in the surface below). But I have forgotten that on the other side of the wooden mass is someone who can help. With simple communication, tapping on that wood, I can get the help I need to climb back on the life boat. This week, my friend in
, my “bestie” getting married, and my brother have all been that ship mate. New York
So, the challenge this week:
Step out of yourself. You heard right, get out of your own way. Thank God for the blessings of limitations…even if those limitations are you. Thank Him that your life is rich because you have limitations to overcome, hurdles to jump, or boat to put right. Give thanks to those He has given to help you through those limitations, be it with tough or soft love. I challenge you to renew your strength and rise up on wings like eagles to peruse the purpose and plan that is designed solely for you. And lastly, I urge you to hold yourself and those in your circle of friends, family, and acquaintances to do the same.
Salut and Cheers!